Mothers Group at St. Anthony of Padua

62 Resources for Pornography Addiction

May 27, 2020

As Mother’s Group Leaders, women often confide in us.  Sometimes the things we hear are beyond our experience or comprehension. There are times where discussing an issue at a Mother’s Group meeting is best done by professional (or someone experienced like Amy) who can navigate the discussion in a healthy way and direct individual  moms in your group to the right sources, the right professionals. It’s best not to get into discussions, or give advice to moms on a variety of topics for a variety of different reasons. There’s nothing wrong with saying, “I really don’t think that is something we can discuss at this meeting, it’s outside of the scope of a Mother’s Group meeting.”

As Mother’s Group Leaders, we are not professional counsellors, so we do encourage each of you to remember your limits. Issues such as pornography, domestic violence, rape, abuse, mental health issues, bereavement etc., may need intervention of a professional. Be careful not to get in over your head as a Mother’s Group Leader. Know your limits.

Recently, our ministry hosted a Virtual Meet Up with a mom whose marriage was tested by fire, Amy Ekblad, who blogs at Blessed By God gave a gripping account of how Jesus (and the graces of the sacrament of marriage) saved her marriage from the ravages of her husband’s addiction. 

Internet addiction, pornography, infidelity are all serious, complex and painful crosses to work through in a marriage (and otherwise). We are not experts in these fields. We do encourage individuals to bring them all to the sacrament of reconciliation, the sacrament of the sick (in consultation with a priest) to never give up praying, to seek for help, ask for help.

Here are several resources that have been submitted from various moms. We have not had the time to review each book and each link. They do come from trusted sources, but we do recommend talking these issues through with a trusted priest  and counsellor. Many women who have written us are from the United States. If you are familiar with Canadian counsellors and/or services, please send them to us at info@CatholicMomsGroup.com

  1.    United States Conference of Catholic Bishops approved list of pornography help resources
  2. Pornography a Personal Account (Part One) https://dynamicwomenfaith.com/blog/pornography-marriage-personal-account
  3. Pornography a Personal Account (Part Two)
    https://dynamicwomenfaith.com/sex-birth-control/pornography-marriage-personal-account-part-two-science-resources/
  4. HELP! My Husband is Addicted to Porn! 10 Ways to Cope | Dynamic Women of Faith
  1. https://www.maritalhealing.com/addictedspouse
  2. https://www.covenanteyes.com/resources/wifes-guide/
  3. Bought With a Price (E-BOOK)
  4. Fantastic Article with Many Links on Pornography
  5. Integrity Restored – Pornography Ministry
  6. Pornography Wife’s Guide
  7. Resources to Help
  8. Your Brain & Porn

 

Books

 

Understanding Sexual Addiction

  1. Bought With a Price (E-BOOK)
  2. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Dr. Patrick Carnes
  3. Your Brain on Porn: Internet Pornography and the Emerging Science of Addiction by Dr. Patrick Carnes
  4. The Pornography Trapby Ralph H. Earle, Jr. and Mark R. Laaser
  5. Wired for Intimacy: How Pornography Hijacks the Male Brain by William M. Struthers
  6. The Porn Myth: Exposing the Reality Behind the Fantasy of Pornography by Matt Fradd
  7. Delivered: True Stories of Men and Women Who Turned from Porn to Purity by Matt Fradd

 

For the Partner

  1. Boundaries: When To Say Yes, How To Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend
  2. Real Hope, True Freedom by Milton Magness and Marsha Means
  3. Facing Heartbreak: Steps to Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes (workbook)
  4. Moving Beyond Betrayal: The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addictsby Vicki Tidwell Palmer
  5. Intimate Deception: Healing the Wounds of Sexual Betrayal by Dr. Sheri Keffer
  6. Mending a Shattered Heart: A Guide for Partners of Sex Addicts by Stefanie Carnes
  7. Your Sexually Addicted Spouse by Barbara Steffens and Marsha Means
  8. Shattered Vows by Debra Laaser
  9. Intimate Treason: Healing the Trauma for Partners Confronting Sex Addiction by Claudia Black

 

For the Addict

  1. Facing the Shadow: Starting Sexual & Relationship Recovery by Dr. Patrick Carnes (workbook)
  2. Contrary to Love: Helping the Sex Addict by Dr. Patrick Carnes
  3. In the Shadows of the Net by Dr. Patrick Carnes
  4. Healing the Wounds of Sexual Addiction by Mark R. Laaser
  5. Clean: A Proven Plan for Men Committed to Sexual Integrity by Dr. Doug Weiss

 

For the Couple

  1.  Intimacy: A 100-Day Guide to Lasting Relationships by Dr. Doug Weiss
  2. The Couples Guide to Intimacy by Bill and Ginger Bercaw
  3. Restored: True Stories of Love and Lust After Porn by Matt Fradd

 

For Children

  1. Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today’s Young Kids by Kristen A. Jenson

 

Counseling/Therapy

Here are some resources for professional counseling and therapy. Some are location-specific, but some offer telehealth.

  1. Ken Adams and Associate (CSATs)
    26862 Woodward, Suite 102 Royal Oak, MI
    (248) 398-0740
    www.sexualhealth-addiction.com
  2. Hope Ray Therapy (LPC, CSAT, CHFP, disclosure specialist)
    Local Intensives
    (586) 307-6107
  3. Elizabeth Jackson, MA, LLP, CSAT
    Novi and Ann Arbor
    (734) 656-8191
    www.restoredhopecounselingservices.com
  4. John Becker (CSAT , Marriage & Family)
    Plymouth Rd. Ste. 150 Plymouth, MI 48170
    (734) 233-7678
  5. Grace Counseling Center (Tim Hogan and Randy Clark-CSAT)
    20801 Moross Rd. Grosse Pointe, MI 48236
    (313) 343-9000
    www.growinghealthypassion.com
  6. Dr. Doug Weiss
    Intensives and phone groups
    Heart to Heart Counseling Center, Colorado Springs, CO 80918
    (719) 278-3788
    www.drdougweiss.com
  7. Bethesda Workshops (intensives and healing workshops)
    1035 Acorn Dr. Nashville, TN 37210
    (615) 467-5612
    info@bethesdaworkshops.org
  8. Dr. Milton Magness
    Sexual Addiction Intensives
    https://www.hopeandfreedom.com

 

Professionals Trained in Sexual Betrayal, Compulsive Sexual Behaviors, and Partner Trauma

  1. The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists (APSATS)
  2. International Association of Certified Sexual Addiction Specialists (IACSAS)
  3. Christian Sex Addiction Specialists International (C-SASI)
  4. Betrayal Trauma Therapy

 

Recovery Groups

  1. My House Men’s Sexual Integrity Group
    (734) 453-0326, ext. 308
    myhouse@olgcparish.net
  2. My House Women’s Group
    (734) 453-0326, ext. 308
    myhousewomensgroup@gmail.com
  3. Men of St. Michael (St. Thomas the Apostle, Ann Arbor)
    (734)-644-8978
    menofstmichaelsta2@gmail.com
  4. My House Women’s Group (Christ the King, Ann Arbor)
    (734) 516-6896
    ekbladmom9@gmail.com
  5. SANON
    (586) 997-7518
  6. Sexaholics Anonymous
  7. Sex Addicts Anonymous
  8. Sexual Recovery Anonymous
  9. Recovering Couples Anonymous

 

Websites

  1. Dr. Doug Weiss
    Peter Kleponis 
    For teens and young adults // The Porn Effect and Fight the New Drug
  2. L.I.F.E. Ministries
  3. My House Initiative

 

Accountability Service

  1. Covenant Eyes
  2. Safe Eyes 

Amy E. Ekblad has been married to Jesse for 25 years, is a homeschooling mother of 14 children on earth, 15 babies in Heaven, and grandmother of two. She is fuelled by Jesus and coffee, in that order.

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